As you describe in your “Why Gay Marriage Now?” chapter, many Americans have been forced to confront their beliefs by a close friend or relative—or even a child or spouse—coming out. Obviously, that makes the debate more than an abstract argument over Scripture. But what about people who aren’t affected as closely? Have you seen a particular argument or way of looking at the issue be effective in changing people’s minds? What seems to be the X factor?
There is no question that knowing
someone gay or lesbian is the most compelling motivator for becoming an
advocate for gay marriage. But those without
those personal connections might come to that same advocacy by another route.
For those who were a part of the civil-rights movement for African-Americans in
the ’60s, or the women’s liberation movement of the ’70s, this struggle for full
and equal (not special) rights for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender
people has a familiar ring. Fair-minded people want to live in a nation whose
laws protect those who are discriminated against by a majority prejudiced
against them. Some take up this fight when they see teenagers committing
suicide because they have no hope for a fulfilling and happy life as a gay man
or lesbian. For followers of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam, there is always
the call to care for the most vulnerable, to welcome the stranger, and to fight
for the marginalized and oppressed, and so their advocacy for gay marriage is
an expression of their faith commitment. There are many roads to advocacy for
gay marriage.
What
was the missing piece for you? Did it take a crucial bit of scriptural or
intellectual evidence in addition to your personal experience?
The
first step, for a gay man like myself, was accepting my own sexuality as a gift
from God, rather than a curse. Once I believed that it was good to be gay, I
then wanted to be able to imagine a happy and fulfilling life for myself. But
marriage for two men or two women seemed like an impossibly unreachable goal.
And that’s why I credit Evan Wolfson, executive director of the national
Freedom to Marry Coalition, with singing this song solo for years until many
more of us believed it too and began to sing along. The hard part was loving
myself and believing that God loved me as a gay man; believing in marriage for
gay or lesbian couples was an easier leap into the joy and meaning of
relationships and commitment.
Your
denomination is one of the most liberal in the U.S., but as you point out,
acceptance of gay marriage is not a done deal there, and even less so in the
global Anglican communion. It’s perhaps easier to see how individuals change
their minds, but how do you see the shifts happening on a church level? Does
the Episcopal Church’s position influence others?
Actually,
the Episcopal Church has dramatically changed in a very short period of time.
Historically speaking, institutions are slow to change and usually resistant to
any sudden moves—churches especially so. In 2003, when I was elected bishop, it
was not at all certain that the Episcopal Church would consent to my election.
They did, however, and in 2010 consecrated the
second gay bishop in Los Angeles, the Rt. Rev. Mary Glasspool.
Within seven short years, a controversial flashpoint had turned into something
fairly routine and accepted. In 2012, the Episcopal Church authorized a
provisional liturgy for the blessing of same-sex relationships and authorized
its use for the blessing of marriages in those states where it is legal. These
are astounding developments and would have been unthinkable only a short decade
ago.
As
for influencing others, I think it’s safe to say that other mainline
denominations (Lutherans, Presbyterians, Methodists) have been watching the
developments in the Episcopal Church, to see if this controversy would weaken
or even destroy us, before undertaking change themselves.
One
doesn’t have to look far back into history to see how much religious traditions
have changed on big issues over time and in some cases even apologized for
their previous positions. More than a few times, those shifts have been
attacked as fatal to the true faith. Why do you think that bigger history is so
difficult to see when we’re fighting over contemporary issues?
Left
to our own devices and passions, we human beings have a hard time seeing beyond
what is immediately in front of us. While the issue of slavery and its
grotesque inhumanity seem obvious to us now, it was not so obvious to slave
owners then who argued—from scripture, no less—that slavery was a part of God’s
plan. We have similarly rethought our understanding of women, disabled people,
and the mentally ill. Rather than being “fatal to the true faith,” it seems to
me that these changes have argued for a more true following of God’s will for
us than past understandings of the faith have allowed. Faith is a dynamic and
ever-changing process, not some fixed body of truth that exists outside our
world and our understanding. God’s truth may be fixed and unchanging, but our
comprehension of that truth will always be partial and flawed at best. Over
time, hopefully, we get it righter and righter!
It
is interesting to wonder what we accept today as morally just and good, which
over time the world will come to understand as unjust and immoral. What I love
about believing in a living God is that I believe God is constantly revealing
God’s self to us over time, and with each succeeding generation, we come a
little closer to understanding the mind of God. Perhaps we might be a little
kinder to past generations in their misperceptions, in hopes that future
generations will be kind in understanding and forgiving our own faults and
cruelties.
There
are intelligent Christians who say outright that tampering with what they call
the “Biblical sexual ethic” is a
compromise of the fundamental meaning of the gospel. (And I don’t just mean
Tony Perkins or Maggie Gallagher!) How did this issue become, for some people,
so central to the credibility of their faith?
Homosexuality
and gay marriage has become, in the minds of some, the litmus test of faith. If
one does not support the traditional understanding of scripture and 2,000 years
of Christian traditional teaching on homosexuality and marriage, then he or she
must not be a believer at all! Somehow, if one does not follow the traditional
“party line” on sexuality, then one must have thrown out all the traditional
teachings and understandings of one’s faith, which of course is simply not
true. I would go so far as to say that conservative Christians—I would include
conservative evangelicals, the religious right, and the Roman Catholic
hierarchy in this group—have made an idol of sexuality and homosexuality. That
is to say, they have placed the comparatively lesser issue of sexuality above
the greater issues of faith in importance: the Trinity, the humanity and
divinity of Christ, God’s saving act in Jesus Christ, to name a few.
“As
marriage is abandoned as largely irrelevant and unnecessary by many young
heterosexuals, it is gay men and lesbians who are most defending and yearning
for this traditional institution.”
I
believe that these people have mostly been taught to think this way by their
ordained leaders. The reasons for this, I believe, are more about politics, power,
and money than about theology or faith. Manipulation of laity by some of their
clergy leadership is the subject for another book, but let’s at least note that
the demonization of gay people and gay marriage was intentionally chosen to
divide us and to raise lots of money. Somehow, these lesser understandings,
about which good people of faith can disagree, are being placed on a pedestal
high above those essential assertions of traditional faith that have been our
foundation for two millennia, and are being used as a litmus test to separate
the false from the true believers. At the end of the day, this seems to me to
be idolatry. Our understanding of the faith has always been in a state of
change as we better and better comprehend God’s will for us. This change in our
understanding is no more a challenge or threat to “the faith” than the changes
that have preceded it.

Interviewed by David Sessions. Read the full article at : http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/09/21/bishop-gene-robinson-on-his-new-book-god-believes-in-love-more.print.html
‘God Believes in Love: Straight Talk About Gay Marriage’ by Gene Robinson. 208 pages. Knopf. $24. Bishop Gene Robinson onstage at the 20th Annual GLAAD Media Awards held at NOKIA Theatre LA LIVE on April 18, 2009 in Los Angeles, California. (Kevork Djansezian / Getty Images)